It’s been a LONG time since I’ve written anything here.. and a LOT has happened. 😁😭💔❤
1.) My Daughters
My daughter Kristina has 3 children now. William is 8; Audreyana is 5; and Alaina is 3. She’s happily married and doing great.
My daughter Danielle graduated from Drake, and has a great job that she really likes.
2.) My Mom
Was diagnosed in May 2016 with Stage 4 breast and lymph node cancer. Her Dr said she was full of cancer.., and wouldn’t make it 😥 but after research on finding a Dr that believes in the power of positivity and prayers, my Mother is now 100% cancer free!.. but not without many struggles along the way. She lost her hair, her strength, and some of her daily activities.. but she never lost her way!. She ended up having to complete chemotherapy and radiation treatments for a few months..; she had surgery to remove the cancer; and the Dr’s at Loyola Hospital (Cardinal Bernadine Cancer Center in Mayfield Illinois, a suburb of Chicago) feel that she did great and that everything is going to be fine with her she, she still has to have check-ups done to make sure that the cancer is gone, but so far so good knock on wood! 🌳
3.) Me…myself…& I
Hmm… not sure where to start so I’m just going to start from the top….
💔My marriage is over after 28 struggling years of being together the towel has been thrown in. Part of me feels lonely, sad, distraught. and angry.. ; but my life is important and I deserve to be happy.
David’s gone through a lot of depression, and I’ve gone through a lot of depression, but the thing that’s different is that I wanted to get better and unfortunately he had different thoughts at that time. He had electric shock therapy (ECT) treatments and this ruined his long term memory and affected his short-term memory… which means that he totally forgot about our life…he knows bits and pieces, but that’s about it…every time that I would try to bring up something that was happy, he wouldn’t remember and then, when we would do something brand new a week later he wouldn’t remember that either.. 😞 and it just became way too stressful I couldn’t handle it. I would tell him that I love him and we would get into arguments because he wouldn’t say it back… he started pulling away and when my mom got diagnosed with cancer I came to the Quad Cities to stay with her to help her get through it, and when I would go back to Des Moines for doctor’s appointments or to just visit for a while, all we would do is argue. I would either cry myself to sleep there or drive back to the Quad Cities in tears. It just became too much…my health was getting bad, my stress was getting worse, and all I could think about was that I wanted to end my life. Life is too important for me to think that way…I know that there’s a lot more out there for me to hold on to, it’s just that the struggle is real.
So I decided after being with my mom for a year to just pack up and move to Davenport… a lot has happened since then my struggles are getting worse as far as family goes. Danielle has basically washed your hands of me, she stated that there’s a lot of things that she needs to think about and she’ll get back to me and let me know how she’s doing. The problem that I have with that, is in the interim.. she has no problem with hanging out with her dad on a daily basis, she has no problems with celebrating holidays with him, or just doing dinner every once in awhile, calling him all the time, texting him, etc… I haven’t heard of her in a very long time.. the last time we spoke to each other was in October when I went to Des Moines to get some of my things. We all got into it; Kristina, Danielle, David, & myself… it was a very hard day. I left there bawling my eyes out calling my mom telling her that all I wanted to do was ram my car into a brick wall, or disappear and never come back. Well obviously I didn’t do that…I’m still here…which is a good thing. I have a lot of people who care about me… and no matter what I do they constantly fight for me, so I have to fight for myself too.
I still live in Davenport… I’m on my own, I live in a loft! I’ve never lived alone before!!, but I’ve actually been doing it since July now. It’s pretty rough… struggling with income (I’m on disability), but on a daily basis it gets easier… the walls were very unforgiving, the couch was very comfortable, and the bed was very inviting… I found myself wanting to not do anything! So now I have a puppy! 🐕 her name is Reygan; she is 4 months old and such a cuddler!! (Brindle Lab/Pit mix). She can be quite the handful with getting into things that she’s not supposed to be getting into, chewing up my things that she’s not supposed to be chewing on, but still just being all out loving! She has really been a big help! We go on walks, we play, she keeps me active (when my back isn’t going crazy).
My war with narcotics is over! I have a grasp on it, but I still struggle as far as pain goes and stuff feeling that I need something to take it away… I know that I’m stronger 💪 than the narcotics!, but the colder I get… the more I want them to help stop the pain. 😒
My struggles with E.D. is still pretty active 😞… I’m still skipping meals; active in the bulimia; and self harming. I know this isn’t the way to do things!, but.. when I feel like I don’t have a handle on life.., I have to show life that I can get a handle on me.
My heart ❤ is still struggling with the way things are going: with my marriage; my daughters; and my independency.. but.. I’m taking it one step at a time!.
Coming to the conclusion of this..
Struggles will always be there…, we just need to find a way to push past it.
More to come soon….
This was written in 2017